6 Ways to Communicate Love to Your Child

Communicate with your children

In this age of emails and text messages I find that the art of communicating is being lost.  Facebook and Twitter have made conversation almost non-existent as everything anyone could ever want to know is splashed across statuses.  Too often we spend more time in front of the computer than in communicating with our children.  Even children are spending their time in front of computers/tablets/ipods/ipads, now.

Lately I’ve been feeling the need to communicate more with my child.  And I’m not talking sit him on my lap and have a conversation.  There are so many other ways of communicating love to a child than just by talking.  And, let’s face it, a 2 year old doesn’t really get much when you sit down and try to have a conversation with him!  He’ll probably be more interested in the buttons on my shirt or that toy over in the corner.

Today I want to share some of different ways of communicating with children (that even I can work on!) and at the end I’m sharing a free printable that you can use for Valentines Day (or whenever you want really).

1. Pray with them.  I think this is monumental in communicating with children.  Since I’ve started praying with Little Man I have seen his heart really soften towards the Lord and church.  At his young age I want him to understand what a real relationship with the Lord is like.  And you should hear the things he prays for all on his own!  It’s a really sweet time for us together.

2. Play with themNo, I’m not going to alliterate all of them (grin).   I read somewhere once that children feel more loved and accepted by their parents when moms and dads spend just 20 minutes of one on one time with them each day.  20 minutes!  That, seriously, is nothing when you consider how many minutes are in a 24 hour day.  I bet we lose that amount just checking Facebook once a day.

3. Love your husband.  Your children need to see you spending time with your mate.  That communicates so much to them!  Let them see you sit together on the couch, hold hands, kiss, etc.  Knowing that you love each other will communicate your love to your child as well.

4. Discipline them.  This is not a very popular topic in our world today.  However, children need rules.  And they need to know that you love them enough to discipline them when they don’t follow the rules.  Hebrews 12:6 tells us that God loves us enough to chasten us.   Love disciplines.  Children will respect you if you are consistent and often will disobey just to get attention, even if it’s the wrong kind!

5. Listen to them.   I don’t have time as a mother to sit with my child on my lap all day and let him talk to me.  However, Little Man will often come and tell me things (whether or not I understand him) while I’m working around the house.  And he knows when I’m not actually paying attention to him.  His voice gets louder and louder and he repeats himself over and over until I fully give him my attention.  As women, we do have the gift of multi-tasking and it’s not that difficult to give your child your attention while continuing to wash dishes or fold laundry.

6. Send them messages.  I love sending notes to people.  My children, however, are not old enough to read, therefore it would be a little silly on my part to send them a hand written note.  For older children this would be great, though (remember the mailbox idea from last week’s Valentines Round-up?).   I still have some notes that my mom left under my pillow when I was growing up.  However, there are many neat ideas of ways you can “send a message” to younger children.  Especially around Valentines Day!

a.  Make a badge for them to wear.  You can make it look like a war medal, a sheriffs badge, or an athlete’s medal (Olympics start tomorrow!).  Just put the simple word, Loved, on it and tell your child what it says (or another word that you like).  I can guarantee they will be so proud to go around wearing it and show it off to Daddy when he comes from work.

b.  Use your child’s name to make a mural on the wall.  In October, we had a Thanksgiving Tree on our wall.  The falling leaves (our handprints) held the things we were thankful for each day.  I had Little Man’s name on one leaf and he knew it!  He loved that his name was up on the wall and would point it out to people.  No, he can’t read.  He just knew which leaf had his name on it.  Something simple will mean the world to them!

c.  Decorate their bedroom doors so they get to run through something fun when they wake up in the morning.  And we come down to the free printable I’m sending your way.  I’ve seen this done for birthdays, but I decided to do this for Valentines Day this year.  Owls was our theme for Little Miss so I made a set of pink and purple owls for girls and a set of blue and red for boys.  I can’t wait for Little Man to wake up to this next week!

Communicate with your children

I made my owls bigger for the purpose of the picture.  They are smaller and I would space them farther apart.  The hearts have little messages on them.  Little Man’s “song” that we’ve shared since his birth is, You Are My Sunshine, so that is on one heart.  And we love the book by Robert Munsch, I’ll Love You Forever, so I used the phrase, “My baby you’ll be.” on one heart.  Another heart says “Love”, and a fourth says, “Be Mine”.  I left a few blank so you can add your own phrase/note, or just leave them blank.  Just click the links below to download the set you’d like to use!  I also made one set just black and white so if you don’t have colour ink for your printer and want different colours you can personalize them to your taste.  Just print off as many pages as you’d like.  Cut out the pictures.  And attach them to yarn. It’s as simple as that!

Girls Valentines Printable

Boys Valentines Printable

Black and White Valentines Printable

 

Communicating with your children is very important.  Are there other ways you communicate to your child?  I’d love to add my list.  Please leave me a comment below!

1777 New England Primer Printable

For those of you who appreciate resources in the King James this primer will be especially for you!

I’ve always loved the old primers and one that uses Scripture with it was something that peaked my interest.  Jacinda, over at Growing Home is offering this incredible set of cursive printables for   She’s going to be selling this printable primer for just $2.99.      That price is just too good.

New England Primer: cursive and maniscript writing pages in New Kings Version

Having been working on my own curriculum for the past few months (can’t wait to share more about that once it’s ready for production) I know just how much work goes into these downloads.  You are going to want to get a copy of this, whether you’re a home schooler or a kindergarten teacher.

I can’t wait for little man to be old enough for these primer worksheets.  I shared on facebook back in the summer about dry erase crayons I had at Walmart. This primer would be perfect to use placed in sheet protectors. Then you could print once and reuse it over and over, even with multiple children.

I hope you will take advantage of this primer and put it to good use in your homeschool/Christian school classroom.

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New England Primer...cursive and manuscript printing pages in KJV

Monday Minutes – 16 Things to Teach Our Children

Into the Promised Land, Joshua 18, Abandoned Bible, White Oak Bayou, Houston, Texas 0420091320BW

I know, this doesn’t sound like a “Minutes” post, lol.  But I promise it won’t be a long one!

Last week, Pastor told us he was going to give us this list, so I was pretty excited (since I’d forgotten) when I came up from dropping Little Man in the nursery to find that this was what he was talking about in morning service.  I love that there are verses to go with each point (don’t we all love a little Bible (or a lot) with our Sunday services?) ((smile))

I’m going to list them out for you and leave my own thoughts to myself for today…that will keep this closer to a “minutes” post, right?

1) Teach them that there is a God and that He is the Creator of all things. (Gen. 1:1; Deut 6:4)

2) The Commandments, Doctrines, Accounts in the Bible are true.  They MUST BE imparted to them.  They MUST NEVER be ashamed of them!  (Deut 6:4-9; Rom. 1:16)

3) Teach them Salvation and pray for their Salvation at a young age (2Tim 1:4,5)

4) There are no excuses for sinful/inappropriate behaviour (Gen 3:8-16)

5) Life is not fair, but God is!  (Ecc 10:7; Jn 12:8)

6)  There are 3 sides to every story and I’m not always buying yours!  (Prov 22:15; Ecc 7:20)

a) Yours

b) Theirs

c)  TRUTH

7)  Must be taught that they’re NOT entitled to anything.  They have to work for it…they have to earn it!  (2 Thess 3:10, 12; Prov 14:23)

8)  The World doesn’t revolve around you!  (Phil 2:20-21; Col 1:18)

9)  Transgression (sin) brings punishment  (Ecc 8:11; Gal 6:7, 8)

10)  You don’t have to WIN, but you do have to do your BEST!  (1Cor 9:24-27; Ecc 9:10)

11)  Warn them of the 3 enemies of their life!  (James 3:15)

a)  World  (Rom 12:1-2; 2 Cor 4:18)

b) Flesh  (1Jn 2:15-17)

c)  Devil  (1 Pet 5:8)

12)  WORK is more important than PLAY  (1 Cor 10:7; 2 Tim 3:4)

13)  ALL lies are BAD!  (Ex 20:16; Prov 25:18)

14)   We must teach our kids the difference between what is CLEAN/UNCLEAN.  (2 Cor 6:14-18

15)  Must be taught to OBEY authority  (Eph 6:1-3;  1 Pet 2:13- 3:7)

16) Must be taught that the ONLY real JOY and satisfaction in life is found in 

a)  serving Jesus Christ  (Rom 14:17; Gal 5:22)

b)  caring for others  (2 Cor 2:3,7; 7:13; 3 Jn 1:4)

These are such great, practical things to teach our children.  And often not easy lessons for them to learn.  I think it’s often hard for parents to watch their children learn some of these lessons as well.   We want to make things perfect for them in life.  But, they do grow up to be adults and we want them to be good members of society – AND, more importantly, as Christians we want our children to love the Lord with ALL their hearts.  While we can’t ensure that this is going to happen (each child makes their own decisions in regards to attitude, etc) we can teach them the way the Bible tells us to.

I hope this list is an encouragement to you, and one that you can pray through so that you can include the Lord in helping you train your children.

Also, don’t forget about the “Praying for your child to Bee” calendar that I posted here in April.  The attributes I put on it closely mimic the 16 things above that we should be teaching our children.    You can click on the picture below to download a copy for yourself.

Praying for my child

Happy Monday Everyone!

Fear…and Raising Children

Raising Godly Children

I don’t consider myself an overly fearful person.   I’ve always been practical about the dangers in our world.  However, since I’ve become a mother I will admit that I do think about things a lot more than I used to.  TV shows that I used to watch (like CSI, etc.) I find disturbing, as I imagine some of these tragedies happening to my child.  But, I don’t dwell on them.  I don’t have nightmares at night about it.

I will say, that being pregnant, I have found myself having more nightmares (or daymares), especially when driving…but I’ve heard that can be connected to hormones, so I’m hoping they don’t stick around.

The last few months, though, I’ve begun to wonder what the Lord is trying to teach me about fear.  My pastor ran a series on Sundays about causes of stress, fear being one of those causes, and the effects of it on our lives both physically and spiritually (you can hear those messages on the church website here).  At the time I was thinking, these are good messages, but I don’t have a problem with that!

Then, last week, we had a visiting pastor preach almost an INDENTICAL message on fear as what Pastor Parrett had preached.  At that pointed I started to wonder what the Lord was trying to say.

Finally, this week I sat down to continue reading my book of the month “What A Son Needs From His Mom” and chapter 4 is on overcoming your fears.  Wow, what is the Lord trying to teach me?

It is so easy, as church-goers, to sit back and say, “God must be trying to teach somebody here, something, because I certainly don’t have a problem with that!”   But I’ve found, that it is much harder to examine my own life and ask, “What is God trying to teach ME?”

And to be perfectly honest, I’m still praying about the answer to that question.

In her book, “What A Son Needs From His Mom”, Cheri Fuller explains how fear can be legitimate (I wouldn’t let my 2 year old cross the street unattended) but it can also be destructive (ie. cause us to become dominating and can also cause us to forget about God’s existence).

Our fears can negatively affect our children as well.  I know a mother, with teen/preteen children, who struggles with fears that really have no basis.  Her fears have spilled over into her children’s lives, causing at least one of them to hang on to the same fear even though there is no basis for that fear.

It’s one thing to be afraid of a bee (especially if you’re allergic to stings) and quite another to be fearful of lady bugs (which don’t normally bite or sting).

So, how do we keep ourselves from being overly fearful and forgetful of God’s protection?  I definitely don’t have all the answers.

Cheri Fuller says that it is often helpful to enlist the help of a male family member who can point out to you when your fears are irrational and need to be reigned in (could be a grandfather, father, husband, brother, etc).

Pray for your children.  If you don’t know where to start you can check out this prayer calendar that I created to help myself in my own personal prayer time.  Entrust your children to God, though.  We can’t hold onto them.  It will only make them resent us the harder we try.

Get into God’s Word and Replace your Fear with Faith.  I think this is the most important step that we, as mothers, can take every day.  And this advice is not just for mothers of sons…it flows over into all aspects of raising children.  I find that if I don’t spend time in God’s Word in the morning, I am more apt to be short and cranky with my child then those days that I do find the time to spend with God.  And it IS about “finding” time.  We find time for everything else it seems except for cultivating a relationship  with the Person who should be the MOST IMPORTANT in our lives.  God is not the author of fear, therefore, the closer we get to Him, the harder it is going to be to hold on to our fears.

When I think of Biblical examples, I see Sarah, Abraham’s wife.  Her fears about child-bearing (or her lack thereof) kept her from believing God’s promises to her.  She LAUGHED at God.  How many times have we laughed at something God has promised us?   “I know God says He will protect us, but I just know if my child does this I’ll never see them again!”  Well, isn’t that us laughing at God’s promise to us?

Then, after Sarah gives birth, she continues to fear God’s plan for Isaac’s life, and forces Abraham to expel Hagar and Ishmael from their camp (a situation that she caused, remember?).   Did she really think that God was not already in control of that situation?   We need to make sure that our fears do not come between our children and God’s plan.

I know I need to continually examine my own life in regards to this subject but I hope it has been a help to you as well.

Happy Monday, Everyone!

Prayer, Raising Children, and a Freebie

Raising Godly Children

I’m currently reading a book titled, “What  Son Needs From His Mom” by Cheri Fuller.  If you have a son this is a MUST-READ.  I have been so encouraged as I read through this.  Boys are so different from girls!  But, there are a lot of things in the book that can translate across gender, namely the subject of prayer.

As Christians we are constantly taught the importance of prayer, but I don’t think it always sinks in.  At least not with me.  I’ve been learning a lot about prayer lately, and this book has solidified a lot of that teaching.

Chapter 5 of the book is on moms praying for their sons.  In it, Cheri gives ways you can weave prayer into your daily life if you feel you are too busy to sit down and spend that “hour” in prayer (as the song “Sweet Hour of Prayer” implies).    She gives you a way, throughout your whole day, of seeing moments of prayer.  From praying for that person in the ambulance who drives by to praying that your son’s footsteps would remain on God’s path as you pick up his shoes after tripping over them.  Such practical ways to pray.

And, as I thought through this post, I even saw how school teachers or day care workers could apply this principle to their classrooms.  This is not something that is unique to mothers.

As I work through this concept of prayer, I decided that I needed something tangible to help me think through each day how to pray effectively for my son.  So I created a prayer calendar for children that we can use to pray character and godliness on our children.

When I was a child, my mother taught me how to embroider using a set of little pictures that showed bumble bees doing something with words above them, eg. Bee Busy, etc.  I created my calendar with the same idea.  Although not all of the values on it have “be” in front of them you can get the idea.  These are things we want for our children, or for them to be.  Things like choosing a godly mate when they are older, following God’s will for their lives, and having a real relationship with Him.  We want them to be honest, be content, be thankful, etc.   Each one has Scripture verses that go with it, so you can see how to Biblically pray for your children.Prayer and Raising Children - free printable. #freeprintable. #quietworkings #whateverysonneeds

I hope that this little tool will help you with daily prayer as I’m hoping it will me.  And if you get tired of praying the same things over and over each month (I’ve made it for 30 days).  You can find other lists out there and switch up which list you pray each month.

To download, click on the picture.

For more lists you can check out:

31 Ways to Pray for Your Children, and

31 Biblical Virtues to Pray for Your Children

Understand that the lists may overlap in some areas.  That’s the nature of praying for your children.  We all want the same things for them. =)

Have a wonderful, praying Monday, Everyone!