Surviving After the Loss of a Child

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Miscarriage and infant loss are really hard subjects for people to talk about. Having experience two of my own, I can honestly that the experience taught me a lot about people and their response to early pregnancy miscarriages. I haven’t talked much about it here before now, but I believe it is a topic that needs to be talked about.

This book review came at a time when I felt the Lord pressing on me the need to tell my story. While I won’t be doing that today. I do feel that giving you my opinion on this book is a good jumping – off point for this discussion going forward.

I’m actually looking forward to sharing more about surviving the grief and I hope that this blog can be a safe place for some real discussion on the matter.

This book, was amazing. It brought me to tears and it taught me, and I’m so thankful to the author for writing this. I think this book will be important for all lay-people and those in ministry to read, to be able to understand the process that parents go through when grieving the loss of a child.

When I first started the book, I felt that it was very clinical and I almost felt detached from what the author was saying. I’m not sure if it’s because of where I was at mentally, but I had to set the book aside for a couple of weeks and come back to it, and I’m glad I did. When I returned to the book, I found my heart opening to the words she had written and I could think through each of the steps of grief as she described them.

She talks about a miscarriage being like a puncture wound, that is tiny and often unseen to the naked eye, but goes deep and can be very painful. On the flip side, the loss of an infant (whether hours, days, or weeks old) is like a slash that everyone can see and share in the pain of. Both can take a long time to heal!

And her analogy of the stages of grief compared to the events that happened while Christ on the cross (darkness, veil being ripped in the Temple, etc) was so fascinating. As was her description of the tears having different chemical components depending on the reason for the tears (sorrow versus pain, etc).

I appreciated this book, both for the healing it brought to my own puncture wounds, but also for the treasure box of information that I can use to help others walking through similar pain. I highly recommend this book and like I stated earlier, I think that everyone involved in ministry or in ministering to the needs of others should read this book! <3

About the Book

Book: A Precious Loss

Author:Sharon Fox

Genre: RELIGION / Christian Living / Death, Grief, Bereavement

Release Date: July 8, 2016

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Losing a child is the worst tragedy a parent can experience. And yet it happens to many from various causes, including Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), death from illness, stillborn birth, or miscarriage. A Precious Loss offers those who have experienced such a death a window into the grief process. It presents the biblical grief model and the emotions to expect after a loss, and it includes the steps to move forward toward peace and contentment. 

While each parent’s experience is unique, this book is written with deep insight and strong compassion. It provides grieving parents with: 

·         Concrete steps to coping and recovery, including how to care for your health and your relationships and how to cope with emotions and behaviors you can expect to experience 

·         Biblical support for finding comfort and hope in your darkest hours

Recognition of the hard questions you may have, such as these: 

·                     Why me? 

·                     Was this my fault? 

·                     Is someone to blame? 

·                     Is this some sort of punishment for things I did or did not do? 

·                     Is there a purpose for my child’s death? 

·                     Can I trust God? 

If you or a loved one is grappling with the devastating loss of a child, this book will provide hope and encouragement to press on, knowing that God will sustain you through this painful experience. 

Click here to get your copy.

About the Author

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Sharon Fox is a wife, author, speaker and co-founder of Brave Penny (non-profit). Her heart for those who mourn and struggle with loss has led her to write and teach about God’s model of grieving the death of his son, Jesus.  

 A Precious Loss, was written for families who have experienced miscarriage, SIDS, infant death and stillbirths. (Spanish – Una Perdida Preciosa

Sharon published Reframing Adoption,(also in Spanish)and a children’s Christmas book, The Stone Carver’s Son. 

She has led a grief recovery ministry for over twenty years. Sharon is a certified grief facilitator and has been a speaker at the National Conference on Adoption and the Anglicans For Life Summit. 

More from Sharon

Precious Loss (Una Perdida Preciosa– Spanish) was written to present a Christian perspective on the survival of families when a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death (SIDS) have occurred. A miscarriage or infant death is strikingly harsh and so many times unknown by others, which leaves the mother and family without support or understanding.  The statistics tell the story.  One in four conceptions end in miscarriage.  Seventy Five Percent of the marriages end in divorce when a child under three dies.

How do families survive the death of a child, a miscarriage, or tragic illness or accident that is such a sacred, personal and bewildering loss event?  A Precious Loss is packed with sage advice, coping skills, presentation of God’s Model of Grieving, the Gospel, helpful, authentic recognition of the emotional overload of loss.  The book presents the blueprint from chaos, sadness, upheaval, questioning, new and strong emotions to contentment. It presents the pathway to the reach contentment and live abundantly again.

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Giveaway

To celebrate her tour, Sharon is giving away the grand prize of a $100 Amazon gift card!!

Be sure to comment on the blog stops for nine extra entries into the giveaway! Click the link below to enter.

https://promosimple.com/ps/ee18/a-precious-loss-celebration-tour-giveaway

Amanda Cunningham

Amanda worked as a full-time school teacher for two years before getting married and having three wonderful kids.She blogs about faith, family, food, and fun.While crafting takes up a lot of her extra time, Amanda also strives to help others through ministry in her church and in the community.Amanda, also known as Mae, works as the church music director and homeschools two of her three children

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14 thoughts on “Surviving After the Loss of a Child

  1. While I have never experienced this kind of loss, I do have close friends and family who have. Sounds like this book will help me to understand their grief process.

    1. I think it would be a big help in understanding your family’s and friend’s loss. And I think it’s amazing that you want to take the time to understand it and help them through the grief. <3

  2. My Mom lost a baby girl 6 years before I was born. She was 4 months early and lived 2-3 hours. It’s been almost 56 years and she still talks about it. Sadly, she never got to hold her and my Dad never saw her.

    1. That must have been very hard for her! I have a close friend whose baby only lived 2 hours and she has some sweet pictures of holding her and her family being around. But times have changed dramatically in the past 20 years over how miscarriages and infant loss are viewed and I think it is making a huge difference. The system isn’t perfect yet, but at least people are starting recognize the significance of these losses.

  3. Wow, I’m shocked and saddened by this statistic: 75% of the marriages end in divorce when a child under three dies.

    My husband and I had a very early miscarriage. It was so sad; we kept it private at the time, but now I see that we should have taken the time to grieve.

    1. It is true! I think early miscarriages are a little different in that statistic, but it doesn’t change the heartache many couples face. Honestly, my husband didn’t struggle as much as I did and I found that hard. But I’m thankful I have the Lord to turn to (and a wonderful church family <3)

  4. What a beautiful review! I couldn’t even imagine losing any of my kids. That would be heartbreaking. =( I have a friend who lost his darling little boy to SIDS about a year ago. This book would be perfect for him and his wife.

    1. Thank you for for your comment. It can be heart-breaking. But the amazing thing is that our God is greater than our heart break! I’m sorry to hear about your friend. If you purchase the book I encourage you to read it first before passing it on. It will help you as well! <3

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